1) BE GOAL-DRIVEN
“I want a big bench press” is a lousy goal. “I want to bench press 315 pounds” is better, but “I want to bench press 315 pounds in 16 weeks” is best of all. See, for a goal to be effective, it must be specific, and more important, have a deadline. I regret not setting more goals early in my training career. Of course, I always had “aspirations”—a look I wanted to achieve, strength levels I wanted to reach—but they were too “loosey goosey,” and were seldom accompanied by a hard deadline. For example, “Get a big bench press” was in the back of my mind throughout high school. But because it was just a vague marker instead of a decisive goal, it took me forever to develop even a mediocre bench press. Goals are important, but at the same time it’s crucial not to become goal-obsessed. You simply will not reach every goal you set for yourself. I don’t care how much of a machine you are; at some point, you’ll fall short. The trick is to not get too down on yourself when it happens. Remember that every failure also presents an opportunity to learn. Dust yourself off, reassess, and start anew.2) REVIEW YOUR GOALS WEEKLY, EVEN DAILY
Think of how many goals are made in a drunken haze every December 31. Now think how many of these goals are abandoned by mid-January. I get it, life is busy. It’s easy to be distracted by the sheer force of immediate survival—work, family, paying the cable bill, domestic duty—so that our less pressing—yet-more impactful—goals get swept aside. Time management guru Stephen Covey based a whole system around this, noting how we tend to focus on unimportant and urgent things (like email) while important yet non-urgent tasks (like goal-setting) fall by the wayside. The result is a life spent putting out fires without accomplishing anything meaningful. Break the cycle: Make reviewing your goals a priority. Some experts say setting aside time once each week is sufficient. I say if you want something badly—such as a new strength achievement—you should review your goals daily. Just spend five minutes every morning reminding yourself how important your goal is to you, and how you’ll eventually reach it, no matter what trivial challenges life might throw your way.3) DON’T BE AFRAID TO CHANGE GYMS
Some gyms just suck. Not just in available equipment; what most gyms lack is a winning atmosphere. I’d bet my last dollar that you’d set personal record after personal record if you actually found a place in which you felt comfortable, and where everyone seemed to “have your back.” The latest, fanciest gym equipment don’t mean squat if your gym makes you feel like just “another member.” Quit paying them. Instead, go find a community that places your goals above your membership fee, where you feel “just right.” Call me old-school, but I like places that are full of chalk, bent barbells, and a noticeable lack of air freshener.FIND A COMMUNITY THAT PLACES YOUR GOALS ABOVE YOUR MEMBERSHIP FEE, WHERE YOU FEEL “JUST RIGHT.”
The kind of place where the third toilet from the end always has a “Do Not Use EVER” sign attached to it. These gyms are often full of strong, serious people who are also generous. That’s my kind of place. What’s yours?